Love Letter To Self Doubt
Have you ever experienced self-doubt?
The dictionary definition of self-doubt is this :- lack of confidence in oneself and one’s abilities.
Henry Ford (Ford Motors) once said, “whether you think you can or can’t, either way you are right”.
I believe that with self-confidence and self-belief you can achieve anything. The dress size you desire, bank balance, relational happiness, success in the workplace. The list goes on, so why do so many of us not fulfil our true potential like 5% of the world’s most successful people?
The answer I honestly believe is self-doubt. So, with this in mind I decided to look at what self-doubt tried to do and write a love letter and break up with it. When we expose negatives into the light they are exposed and do not feel as scary. So, I hope this helps many who can emphasise. If you know someone that this could help, please feel free to pass it on.
Dearest Self Doubt,
I solute you. You have been a part of my life for as long as I can remember.
You have always ensured that I stayed focused on the small parts of my existence.
You push me into asking questions such as can I do this? Will I ever be a success? What if I fail? Will people judge me?
All leading questions that keep me small and stop me taking risks and having the faith to believe something not yet seen but hoped for!
I have taken courage and now believe that I can do anything that I put my mind to, so with this in mind I am now saying goodbye to you. I have had enough of how insecure and inadequate you make me feel.
You have made me focus on my child self which has led me to feel insecure and act immaturely.
I am now realising that I am better than you have had me believe and that I deserve to be happy. That the world is for me and not against me, as you have so often suggested.
My days of worrying what people think of me are over. I am enough and I am learning, day by day, to accept myself for who I am and learn to be kind to myself. I am dedicated to becoming my own greatest best friend.
The days of you making me feel overwhelmed are over. No longer will I allow you to create an avalanche of disappointment and despair to flood my body again.
In the past, I have allowed you to paralyse my potential and my heart breaks for the others who do not yet realise your schemes. I am committed to exposing you and your tactics to the world.
I surrender the anger, frustration and impatience and choose feelings such as peace, optimism, and appreciation. These emotions enable me to live an abundant life every minute of every day.
I am choosing with intention to listen to the still, small voice within me. This voice that encourages me and helps me to see beyond the feelings of self-doubt. It pushes me forward and encourages me to believe that I can live a life beyond my wildest dreams.
I desire to conclude on this note, without you I would have never realised how strong I am. You have taught me that there is no wrong feelings and to be curious is to take courage and be the change I desire to see happen.
I have realised that whatever I focus on draws closer and then expands. So now I am determined to focus on things that bring out the best in me and from this experience, I desire to help others to know that they are worthy.
You were my greatest teacher and for this I am grateful. I forgive you for any harm you have caused me and I wish you all the best in your future.
Much love and compassion,