Up Styling My Life
When I got pregnant with my first born Daniel back in 2007, I was volunteering as a Global Representative for the YMCA and worked as a youth worker which involved getting Ethnic minorities involved in the Duke of Edinburghs Award for Bradford Youth Service.
At this point I was also offered an opportunity to represent England at a European Council member for young people. This position would worked alongside my Global representative role and the additional duties that I had as an Executive Committee member for the World Alliance also for the YMCA.
I was honoured and in the process of accepting this amazing opportunity. Then one day everything changed.
My past time love is watching movies and this particular evening it was a movie called “Click” with Adam Sandler. I highly recommend watching this film because the main story line is about how ambition to get to the top will bring a massive wedge in your relationships with your children, partner, family and local community.
The sacrifices that have to be made for the money, title and status are something I was encouraged to think long and hard about.
I felt a conviction in my gut that I just couldn’t shake off. Was traveling to various countries, time away from my new born baby and husband worth it?
My conclusion was that I only have 1 life and my child is my responsibility and my joy. I didn’t want a nanny or family member having that responsibility while my Son and I miss out on each others company.
The next day I made contact with all of the association that asked me to work for them and withdrew my services, with the exception of my paid Youth work position where I didn’t need to travel and be away from home for long periods of time.
Some people may think that I am mad to turn down opportunities that would take me around the world with all expenses paid, but truth be told, I just knew my destiny was connected to making this decision.
I later stopped doing the youth work and decided to set up a Childcare service from my home. My husband later joined me and this turned out to be the best decision of our lives. I went onto have 2 other children, Joseph and Evan which meant that I was a full time parent with a profession. It also meant that I had an amazing connection with my local community and quality time with my husband and children.
Sometime in 2018, my eldest son watched the Movie “Click”, the film that brought about my change of career and to my surprise at the exact same part in the movie that accosted my heart to make a change, he burst into tears. This was so surreal and to this day I have never seen him react to a movie in this way.
Have you ever heard the saying everything that glitters isn’t Gold? Well, I believe this to be true. The real gold is the memories we make, the chances we take and the courage to make choices we make no matter how high the stakes.
Chase them at your own risk but I strongly advise – weigh up the affects of the cost on your relationships with family, friends and your community.
Now, go and watch the film “Click”!