Menopause can feel like a rollercoaster ride. Many women experience a mix of emotions and physical changes during this time. You might find yourself feeling anxious, having trouble sleeping, or struggling with mood swings.

These changes can be confusing and overwhelming. I know this from my own experience. When I went through early menopause, I felt foggy and lost. It was hard to keep up with my daily life, even as a personal trainer.

Menopause usually happens between the ages of 45 and 55, but it can start earlier for some women. Common symptoms include:

• Hot flushes
• Night sweats
• Mood swings
• Weight gain
• Difficulty sleeping

The emotional impact of menopause can be just as challenging as the physical symptoms. You may feel like you’re not yourself anymore.

This is where Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy can help. I use IFS in my life coaching to support women through these changes. It helps you understand your feelings and find ways to cope.

In the following sections, we’ll explore how IFS therapy can benefit you during menopause and how to get started on this journey.

What is Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy?

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy is a powerful approach that helps us understand the different parts of ourselves. Think of it like having a team inside you, where each member has its own role, feelings, and thoughts.

During menopause, you may notice that certain parts of you become more active. For instance, you might have a part that feels anxious about the changes in your body or a part that feels frustrated with the emotional ups and downs.

How Does IFS Work?

IFS therapy encourages you to explore these parts without judgment. Here’s how it can help:

• Identify Your Parts: You’ll learn to recognise the different feelings and thoughts that arise during menopause. This can include anxiety, sadness, or even anger.

• Understand Their Needs: Each part has its own needs and concerns. By understanding what each part is trying to communicate, you can learn how to support yourself better.

• Create Harmony: IFS helps you bring these parts together, allowing you to feel more balanced and whole. Instead of feeling overwhelmed, you can find a way to work with your feelings.

In my life coaching sessions, I use IFS to guide women through their menopause journey. By exploring their inner parts, we can address feelings of anxiety, confusion, and sadness. This process helps women feel more in control and connected to themselves during this time of change.

Benefits of IFS Therapy During Menopause

Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy during menopause can offer many benefits. This approach helps you understand and manage the emotional challenges that come with this life stage. Here are some key ways IFS can support you:

• Understanding Your Emotions: IFS helps you identify and explore the different feelings you may experience during menopause. By recognising these emotions, you can better understand what you’re going through.

• Managing Anxiety and Mood Swings: Many women face increased anxiety and mood swings during menopause. IFS allows you to connect with the parts of you that feel anxious or upset. This connection can help you find ways to calm those feelings and regain control.

• Improving Self-Compassion: Menopause can bring feelings of frustration and self-doubt. IFS encourages you to treat yourself with kindness. By understanding your inner parts, you can learn to be more compassionate towards yourself during this challenging time.

• Finding Clarity and Direction: IFS therapy can help you clarify your goals and desires. As you explore your inner world, you may discover what you truly want for yourself moving forward. This clarity can empower you to take positive steps in your life.

Many women have found IFS therapy to be a valuable tool during menopause. They report feeling more connected to themselves and better equipped to handle the changes they face.

In my life coaching sessions, I incorporate IFS to help women navigate their menopause journey with confidence and support.

How to Get Started with IFS Therapy

If you’re interested in exploring Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy to support you during menopause, here are some practical steps to get started:

• I am a Qualified IFS Therapist: Contact me to discuss how I can help you with this process. 

•  Consider Online Resources: If you prefer to start on your own, there are many books and online courses about IFS. These resources can provide valuable insights and exercises to help you understand the basics of IFS therapy.

• Join Support Groups: Connecting with other women who are going through menopause can be incredibly helpful. Look for local or online support groups where you can share your experiences and learn from others. Some groups may even incorporate IFS principles into their discussions.

• Practice Self-Reflection: Take time to reflect on your feelings and experiences. Journaling can be a great way to explore your thoughts and identify the different parts of yourself. Ask yourself questions like, “What part of me feels anxious right now?” or “What does my inner critic say?”

• Be Patient with Yourself: Remember that exploring your inner world takes time. Be gentle with yourself as you navigate this journey. It’s okay to take small steps and seek support when needed.

By taking these steps, you can begin to harness the power of IFS therapy to help you manage the challenges of menopause. It’s a journey of self-discovery and healing that can lead to greater understanding and acceptance of yourself.

Contact Me

I invite you to share your experiences with menopause and how you’ve managed the changes. If you’re interested in exploring IFS therapy further, let’s have a chat! You can book a free call with me to discuss how I can support you on your journey.